How to write a eulogy

Use your own memories, thoughts and feelings. Here are a few suggestions you might find useful:

• What were the highlights of their life, and their achievements, at work and at home?
• What were they like as a person? Their humour, hobbies, interests and passions, their likes and dislikes.
• What challenges did they face, and how did they cope?
• What was your relationship with them? Try to put into words how you feel, and how you will go on without them.
• Who else was close to them, and how do they feel?
• Is there anyone to thank? You don’t have to mention every name.

Putting it together

You could start with your earliest memories and work up to today, start with today and work backwards, or pick a few key themes.

Keep it short. You might write it out word for word, or just note keywords so you can look up at the people listening. A poem or reading is best read word for word.

On the day

Don’t worry if you become emotional. Take a few deep breaths and carry on; everyone will be with you.

Speak slowly. When we’re nervous we tend to rush, and speaking slowly helps your breathing and makes sure everyone hears every word.